Learn From Others
Having honest conversations with at least two or three other great foster/adoptive families will be one of the best ways in determining if this is right for you.
Examine Your Motivations and Expectations
The motivations and expectations you have for fostering or adopting play a significant role in your relationship with your future child. Examining your reasons for fostering and adopting now, and adjusting your expectations is an important step to providing unconditional love to a child.
Recruit Your Team
Fostering or adopting is done best when a community of people care for and support your family. Are there two or three trusted people/families who are committed to caring for you regularly through prayer and practical help, both during your initial process and once you have your child home?
Determine What Child Might Best Fit Your Family
Consider the need for families for older children and teens. Talk with other foster families about what it is like to parent children who do not come to them as infants.
Find An Agency
If you are interested in foster care, we recommend that you go to a local DFPS Foster to Adopt Orientation. You’ll learn about the process, and meet agency representatives. We highly recommend agencies that are immersed in trauma-informed care. You can find recommended agencies here.
Equip Your Family With Training and Resources
Your agency will provide training, but read books and blogs about adoption and fostering. Keep talking with others who have done it. You’ll be glad you did before your child is placed with you!
It’s difficult to understand that families must wait when children are in desperate need. But there can be a lot of waiting. Use this time to prepare your heart. Wait expectantly for the good and hope for you and the child placed with you.
Placement of a Child
Once a child has been placed in your home, the adventure is not over! Be prepared to learn more about how to parent a child from a hard place. Join a support group, chat regularly with other foster and adoptive parents, and continue to ask for prayer and support from your community of friends and agency.